Thursday, March 7, 2013

Well Done, Sister Suffragettes!

Early in our dating relationship, Aaron and I had a conversation in which Aaron tried to ascertain whether I was someone who wanted to have a family. He wasn't totally sure because before we'd started dating, he'd overheard me having animated conversations with various people about feminism. Those conversations came about because I'd been reading some 18th and 19th century feminist writers in one of my literature classes. I was excited about what I was reading, and wanted to share it with everybody.


The thing I remember reading in my college class and talking to everybody in my ward about was Vindication of the Rights of Women by Mary Wollstonecraft in 1792. Here are some of her excellent thoughts:
" do not wish them [women] to have power over men; but over themselves."

"Taught from their infancy that beauty is woman's sceptre, the mind shapes itself to the body, and romaing round its gilt cage, only seeks to adorn its prison."

Ever since those college classes, I have thought a lot about feminism and womanhood and motherhood. These things are so interesting to me...which isn't that surprising since I'm a female, a woman, and a mother. Recently there were several important commemorations of feminism and women's rights. February 15th was Susan B. Anthony's birthday. It is an official holiday, but only in Florida and Wisconsin. Utah women do not have as great a debt towards Ms. Anthony because they had the vote long before she came along. Did you know that Utah women could vote way back in 1870? The vote was taken away by Congress in 1887 when they were trying to get Utah to stop polygamy. Does that make any sense? Anyway, when Utah became a state in 1895, women's voting rights were written into the state constitution. 

Even though we're Utahns, I still wanted to celebrate. For Susan B. Anthony Day, Annie and I made awesome suffrage sashes. 

I considered teaching her about Sister Anthony, but didn't get much farther than checking out this book from the library. Annie's a bit dubious.

Sister Anthony was one cool lady. She said this:
"The women of this nation in 1876 have greater cause for discontent, rebellion and revolution than the men of 1776."

I'm reading 1776 by David McCullough right now, and I totally agree with this statement. Reading early feminists/suffragettes always makes me say Amen, Sister!! Fight for freedom! Woohoo!

The other recent commemoration was the Women's Suffrage Parade that happened on March 3, 1913. This year was the hundred year anniversary. Cool, right? Don't you wish you could have been there wearing this?
This lady's name was Hedwig Reicher and this was the parade's grand finale tableau. Hedwig (not the Harry Potter owl) is representing Columbia. According to wikipedia (I've done some rigorous research here) Columbia "is a historical and poetic name used for the United States of America and is also the name of its female personification." I did not know that. So this tableau totally rocks--she's embodying the female half of the nation. The 19th amendment prohibiting any United States citizen being denied the right to vote on the basis of sex came seven years after the parade in 1920.

So you can see that my feminist heroes are a bit dated. There are lots of things about modern feminism that I just can't get into, so I haven't really immersed myself in that world. But there is one Mormon feminist whose work I've been reading in the last year. Her name is Valerie Hudson Cassler. She is awesome. I read her co-written book called Women in Eternity, Women in Zion. It addressed the topics of Eve and polygamy and the New Testament scriptures about women not talking in church and answered a lot of questions that I think many Mormon women have. 

I also read an article by her called "'Some Things That Should Not Have Been Forgotten Were Lost': The Pro-Feminist, Pro-Democracy, Pro-Peace Case for State Privileging of Companionate Heterosexual Monogamous Marriage." That's a loaded title, but it was a fantastic article. She talked about different marriage and family set-ups throughout history and in different cultures. Then she talked about why the set-up of marriage with one man and one woman who treat each other with mutual respect is essential to male/female equality and peace in the world. She also made the point that every child comes from one male and one female. What a revolutionary idea? Just kidding. Her point was that every child has a "mixed heritage." Living in a home with both a man and a woman helps children to get a sense of that mixed heritage and learn how to treat the opposite sex with respect. She said "to make explicit the mixed heritage of female mother and male father is a humane act. To celebrate our mixed heritage is a human act. To hide or obscure that mixed heritage, or to accentuate only half of that heritage, are inhuman acts." I don't know if this will make any sense without reading the whole article, so you should read it yourself. It basically blew my mind. 

In conclusion, hooray for women's suffrage, hooray for good feminism, and hooray for the gospel of Jesus Christ that, more than anything else on earth, truly teaches the equality of men and women. 

Oh, and hooray for this scene from Mary Poppins.
 

Wednesday, February 13, 2013

A Great Scott

Scotty is well into his 9th month of life now. My updates of his babyhood have been less regular than updates of Annie's babyhood. Sorry, kiddo. But let it be known to the world that Scotty is a wonderful baby. He makes us so happy with his little cutenesses and baby ways. The word people always use to describe him is calm. He does his share of fussing at home, but when we are out and about he does get very calm and just observes everything going on around him. He has totally mastered the art of rolling, and he is getting close to pulling himself onto his hands and knees. He can sometimes stay on his knees for one second, but then he quickly falls on his face. He is also getting good at turning around on his bum. After a rough start with solid foods, Scotty now gladly consumes anything we put in his mouth. Maybe his teeth have something to do with that. He has 6 teeth and one on the way. That seems crazy to me! I think Annie only had 2 teeth at this age. He has not yet bitten me while nursing...because he knows what's good for him. 

He has a couple of little tricks. He can twist his tongue all around until it is almost upside down.
After all the times I've fed him, he now sometimes likes to feed me.
He shakes his head back and forth very emphatically.
And he also learned how to wave.
(I have some really adorable videos of all of these things, but they will not load. You'll have to take my word for it.)

These truly amazing skills showcase Scotty's superior intelligence and cuteness. He is a good, cuddly, adorable little boy, and he brings us bucketfuls of joy. What did we do with ourselves before he was born?
 
 

Monday, January 14, 2013

Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Christmas 2012

It was a Christmas full of travel, family, friends, food, and sickness, just like every Christmas ought to be. We started out the season by borrowing an artificial Christmas tree from my sister Liz. According to me, this was our first official Christmas tree. I'm not counting the 18 inch Charlie Brown tree from years gone-by. I probably should, but it would fall over at least three times a day and the decorations I put on it would always fall off. It was like watching Christmas crash and burn every day in December. Aaron loved it, though, because it matched the size of his Christmas spirit. So you can imagine the arm-twisting I had to do this year. I was truly glad to have it, and Aaron did come through and support me in the end. I hand-crafted some ornaments as well. If you look closely you can see the blood, sweat, and tears on them.

My brother Philip and his wife Kelsey and their two kids came to my parents' house. So we headed up there for a few days before Christmas. Annie and Daphne seemed to hit it off right away.

It was so great to see Phil and Kelsey. I think it had been 18 months since our last visit.

Philip's birthday happens to be on Christmas day. We celebrated on the 22nd. These pictures were the most memorable part. The shirt was a gift from his wife, the shorts were a gift from Liz and Darren, and the poses are gifts from Phil to you, dear reader.
Phil also introduced the family to two wonderful things--Comedy C on BYUtv. (It's good! You should watch it.) And the Netflix fireplace.

Another important event happened right before Christmas. My sister Liz gave birth to her 6th child, a boy named Aiden. It was special to have a tiny baby boy at Christmas time. Liz is one amazing woman. 

While together, we had our traditional Christmas Eve rice pudding feast. It was as good as ever. We are all loving the addition of sausage rolls. Thank you Aunt Kathleen for that blessed, blessed recipe.

Aaron and I were the last ones eating both because we can put it away and because Scotty had a meltdown mid-meal and needed to be put away...to bed.

After the meal, we acted out the nativity. Philip was the director. In my opinion, it was the most organized performance we've ever done as a family.
It was a lovely pre-Christmas Christmas.

On Christmas Eve day we headed back to Aaron's parents' house. Their neighborhood has a Christmas Eve tradition of putting candles in white paper bags up and down the sidewalks. It requires a little bit of effort but looks really beautiful. You'll have to take my word for it. Here's Aaron and Scotty getting ready to go outside and see the lights.

After the kids went to bed, I spent a couple of hours trying to sew a little skirt for Annie. I took the material from an old play dress I had. It was supposed to be an easy project, but the material was somewhat gathered at the top, so sewing a fold and inserting elastic ended up being a lot harder than I'd planned. Luckily, Julie was there to save me from myself. I guess I wouldn't make a very good elf. Here are some Christmas Eve and morning pictures.
Angela/Rudolph the red nosed reindeer
Matching dolls made by Grandma Dennis
 Annie playing with the Mrs. Potato Head that we gave to Lucy. Kids love to steal presents.
 The play phone--all ages were enthralled by it.
 Opening stockings
 Princess boots!
The skirt
 The littlest person had the biggest present under the tree. It was a carseat from G & G Dennis.
 Opening presents by himself after his morning nap.
 Brothers and kids
Just kids.

The Dennis clan got crazy this year playing minute-to-win-it games. Heather organized everything, and it was a blast. 
We loved being with our wonderful families! Thanks for putting up with us and our kids. It was a very Merry Christmas.